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RELATIONSHIP COUNSELING:
COUPLES
: PREMARITAL
: FAMILIES


For COUPLES

Relationships are my primary focus.

My Philosophy:

So many times I watch couples come into counseling to "save" their relationship. By this time, resentment may have gotten so deep, it can be challenging to overcome. It's usually because the couple ends up getting "comfortable" or "complacent", and there is a lack of communication. They end up living somewhat satisfactory and fulfilling lives together - staying with the status quo.

In my personal and professional practice, the goal is to rise above this status quo and create the most fulfilling relationship possible.
My idea is to enhance and build upon what is considered satisfactory - and take it to the next level. If you are going to spend the majority of your time and life together, why not make it incredible?

I believe that all conflicts are there to help you grow as a couple, and the most important part of conflict is how you resolve it. This happens through communication.

My Therapeutic Approach: Seeing and Gaining Understanding of Each Other...

With each couple, I connect to each person individually as well as together. With each person, I get an idea of what their "life movie" is - from childhood to the present. This allows me to see what patterns/issues have developed and what unresolved internal conflicts and unfinished business may be showing up in the relationship. Normally, until the issues are resolved, the same scenes keep playing over and over again (i.e. you keep having the same argument).

Once each of your life movies are clear, I support you both in seeing how these issues/conflicts show up in your relationship together. Gaining this understanding will allow each of you to do three primary things:

(1) Understand and take accountabilty for your patterns, issues, unresolved conflict, and unfinished business and, more importantly, take steps to take care of yourself in the present, and resolve past challenges.

(2) Support and have compassion for each other in your patterns, issues, unresolved conflict, and unfinished business, rather than taking it personally.

(3) See what your "couple movie" is, and take action on making the changes needed to let go of resentment, and grow more connected.

How you will do this...

Through openness, willingness, communication, and compassion. All of these actions will allow you to have a deeper connection.

Athough I am not certified in Imago Therapy, I follow a significant amount of the ideas presented by Harville Hendrix in his book Getting the Love You Want and Hendrix's and Helen Hunt's The Couple's Companion Meditations and Exercises for Getting the Love You Want.

I provide the space for you in session to practice communicating with empathetic and reflective listening, so both of you will feel listened to, understood, and loved through your dialogue.

I personally believe that communication and vulnerability is the glue in the most connected relationships. So, I take Hendrix's theories of love and support you in getting more connected in the Five Major Aspects of Life...

Your Couple's Wheel of Life...

I use an integration of traditional and holistic methods with my relationships. The Couple's Wheel of Life includes The Five Intimacies**: Physical Intimacy, Emotional Intimacy, Mental Intimacy, Spiritual Intimacy, and Social/Relationship Intimacy.

At the start of your counseling, I do an in-depth assessment to see how well you are connected and caring for your relationship in each of those areas. Once that is identified, you will get specific with what needs the most nurturing, identify goals and desires, and practice logical and simple methods to help you get stronger in that area. Click here for a sample of the Holistic Relationship Assessment*.

Cost: first session is always free. Fees start at:
$120 per hourly session
$180 per 1.5 hour session

Package Discounts:
$10 off per session if you purchase 5 upfront ($50 discount)
$15 off per session if you purchase 10 upfront ($150 discount)
*If you purchase a package and choose not to complete your sessions, you will be refunded minus the difference of the full session fee of the agreed upon hourly fee.
(credit cards, cash, and/or checks accepted)
Most PPO and POS insurances accepted as an out-of-network provider.

*Please don't let cost ever stop you from taking care of your needs. Everything is doable! Just contact me and if we cannot find synergy, I will provide you with alternative resources.

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*Holistic Relationship Assessment © 2007 Aimee Zakrewski Clark.
**The Five Intimacies
© 2006 Aimee Zakrewski

Premarital Counseling

Congratulations! If you having come to this section, it means that you are embarking on one of the most amazing, courageous, and connected experiences of life: marriage.

I have a simple protocol when it comes to Premarital Counseling:

1. Holistic Assessment: we will do a thorough assessment of where you are in your relationship based on the five major aspects of life: physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, and social/relational. This will create your Couple's Wheel of Life. (Click here for an example of the Holistic Relationship Assessment*.)

2. Taking Action: Based on the results of your assessment, you will develop specific intentions/goals for areas where you need extra support. You will also practice specific tools and exercises to grow closer in that part of your Wheel. This can include, but is not limited to:

1. Process vs. Content
2. Knowing Needs/Making Needs Requests
3. Conflict Resolution
4. Negative interaction pattern/Empathy
5. Principles of Communication
6. Gottman’s 4 Horsemen
7. Five Languages of Love/Apology
8. Expectations of Marriage
9. Short-term & Long-term Goals

I approach each couple with a blank slate of which you create the picture. This means that there is no predetermined agenda or specific number of sessions. I suggest you begin with five initial sessions (of which the first is free).

Cost: first session is always free. Fees start at:
$120 per hourly session
$180 per 1.5 hour session

Package Discounts:
$10 off per session if you purchase 5 upfront ($50 discount)
$15 off per session if you purchase 10 upfront ($150 discount)
*If you purchase a package and choose not to complete your sessions, you will be refunded minus the difference of the full session fee of the agreed upon hourly fee.
(credit cards, cash, and/or checks accepted)
Most PPO and POS insurances accepted as an out-of-network provider

*Please don't let cost ever stop you from taking care of your needs. Everything is doable! Just contact me and if we cannot find synergy, I will provide you with alternative resources.

*Holistic Relationship Assessment © 2007 Aimee Zakrewski Clark.

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For FAMILIES

There comes a time in life where we have growing pains and road blocks. During these times, we may need assistance from an objective voice to help us move through them.

Whether it is the new experience of a divorce, blending two families together, communication with your teenager, or launching your child from the home - counseling can ease the transition, open up lines of communication, and provide another view of the situation.

The Benefits of a Family Meeting

Have you ever tried to have a family meeting and it feels like you are getting nowhere? Having an objective mediator can make family meetings go a lot smoother and enable you to get focused and clear on what's needed. The overall goal is teamwork!

Cost: first session is always free. Fees start at:
$120 per hourly session
$180 per 1.5 hour session

Package Discounts:
$10 off per session if you purchase 5 upfront ($50 discount)
$15 off per session if you purchase 10 upfront ($150 discount)
(credit cards, cash, and/or checks accepted)
Most PPO and POS insurances accepted as an out-of-network provider

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