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GRIEF & LOSS COUNSELING
passion for Grief & Loss work began in early 2005 while
working as an intern at a women's recovery program here
in San Diego. There I ran a weekly Grief & Loss group.
It was then that I learned that grieving was about much
more than death - it was about a loss and/or change of anything
that was honorable and/or dear to you:
person or relationship (death, divorce, break-up, move,
Time (due to procrastination, addiction, depression, etc.)
Health (illness, loss of body part/use, etc.)
an integration of the Kubler-Ross 5 Stages of Grief (DABNA)
and Dr. Barry Green's Holistic
methods, I developed a Grief & Loss healing process
that is designed to:
Acknowledge what you have lost,
- Connect to how it has affected your beliefs about yourself,
life, and the world, and
- Consciously heal what is naturally coming up inside of
In brief, the 5 Stages of Grief are:
of the time when we have lost something - or when something
has changed - we are unaware of these stages; of what we
need, or how to take care of those needs.
loss can bring confusion and lack of motivation. It can
bring bitterness, resentment, and sadness. It can cause
us to want to "pretend" or "forget"
it ever happened. Sometimes it can bring all of those feelings
is common to fluctuate between the different stages. Through
the Grief & Loss work that we do together, you will
be able to:
Be conscious of which stage you are in,
- Be conscious of what's happening and what you're feeling
- Experience congruent and practical methods/exercises to
work through those feelings,
- Learn what you need specifically to take care of yourself
during your grieving process, and
- Get to the final stage of ACCEPTANCE/RESOLUTION.
Through my experience, one of the strongest stages is of
BARGAINING/BLAMING.It is a very debilitating and frustrating
stage as people tend to try to go into the past and either
bargain or blame about how things could have been done differently.
This is where most people tend to get stuck. It can feel
helpless and overwhelming. It is natural to look to someone
to blame, or to play the "What if..." game. Sometimes
you blame and punish yourself. It is at this point that
methods of "release work" is used.
is when the integration of holistics and traditional therapies
is very powerful: Release work. Release work is using your
voice and body to express thoughts and feelings in a safe
and dynamic way. There are many different methods - all
of which are designed to allow you to experience and process
out whatever is needed. This has a mental, emotional, and
physical effect on a person. It can also sometimes have
a spiritual effect.
When we feel angry, stressed, hurt, scared - any imbalance
- we do not just hold it in the mind. We hold it in the
heart, stomach, neck, throat, shoulders, etc. Hence, incorporating
both mind and body modalities and practices allows you to
truly work through your loss in a holistic, profound way.
it takes is a desire to heal. And sometimes all it takes
is DISCOMFORT. I have found that the more uncomfortable
a person is, the more motivated they are for change.