specialize in healing childhood trauma and learnings that
may be causing adults to feel depressed, anxious, and/or
overall blocked from living a fulfilling life. I do this
through the 5 Stages of Healing,
a holistic process created by Dr. Barry Green. I have chosen
this path not only because of the specific training I have
done, but mainly because of my own healing.
is my feeling that almost all childhood trauma can heal
through a holistic grief process. Using an integration of
the Kubler-Ross 5 Stages of Grief (DABNA) and Dr. Barry
Green's Holistic methods, I
developed a Grief & Loss healing
process to support you in truly moving through the pain.
children of childhood trauma, you learn defense mechanisms
in order to protect yourself. Sometimes it is humor, sarcasm,
acting out, isolation, or something that allows you to exist
with the pain, shame, hurt, and anger that is created as
a result of the trauma. This defense mechanism turns into
a numbing process, almost a false sense of latency, where
you almost "forget" or are "over" the
is usually the first stage of the Kubler-Ross' 5 Stages
of Grief: DENIAL.
some point in life, survivors of childhood trauma may hit
a threshold - where you can no longer deny the pain you
experienced. This is usually when you will start to feel
the other stages of grief (anger, blame, sadness).
likely, here is the place you will want to seek support.
CONNECTING the Childhood Trauma to Adulthood
trauma is not healed, it will usually show itself in adulthood
in different ways: relationships, career, self-worth, choices,
type of trauma can create negative or dysfunctional old
learnings. Basically, the old learning
is carried into present life and usually stays with you
You gain awareness that the negative message is there, and
2) You take the steps to unlearn it and relearn what is
true and healthy for you.
is an OLD LEARNING?
old learning is a message or story about
who you are, what you deserve, and life in general. They
are called old learnings based on the belief that we are
not born with these messages. Rather they are learned based
on our experiences, allowing you to trust that they can
be unlearned and more positive, healthy messages can be
For example, if a child is physically abused they may learn
are not lovable
- You are not good enough
- Your feelings are not important
- Don't trust other people
my experience, an old learning can be created as a result
of either following or purposely going against an old learning
you saw in a person when you were a child (parent, guardian,
brother, sister, etc).
example, if you watched your mother keep her feelings inside
you may either learn to "Keep Your Feelings Inside"
as well, or you may rebel and do the complete opposite,
making it a point in your life to "Express Your Feelings".
once you become aware of the old learning there is natural
pendulum swing from being in the old learning, and then
completely rebelling against it. For example: If the old
learning is "Not Good Enough", when buying
into the old learning a person may appear down, depressed,
and actual have thoughts and feelings of worthlessness (passive).
When the person rebels against the old learning
of "Not Good Enough", they swing to the opposite
and and get angry, hostile, and determined to prove and
make sure people know they are indeed good enough (aggressive).
overall goal of the 5 Stages of Healing is to find the balance
between buying into and rebelling against
the old learnings. In essence, being able to own what is
true for you (I am good enough) in a grounded and healthy
the Childhood Trauma (and the Old Learnings)
emotional traumas are held in the body. This is especially
true when the trauma was also physical or sexual. This is
primarily where the holistic process comes in - releasing
the trauma emotionally and physically, using various exercises
and methods with the body and mind.